I began nurturing my curiosity about death and dying back in 2001 as a result of attending weekly meditation and Buddhist philosophy sessions. I would say during this time I woke up to the simple yet profound truth that myself, everyone I knew and loved was going to die and the time of death was unknown.
I felt compelled to learn more about death and dying. I was mystified as to why the topic was considered almost taboo in this country and why a natural part of our life cycle had become a medicalized event often leading to so much pain and confusion.
Volunteering for hospice in three different states and working for two different hospice organizations allowed me an intimate view of the difficulties that dying people and their caregivers experience and how hospice provides one of the best models of care for people at the end of life.
In November of 2016 I created the first end-of-life doula training program for a hospice in Hawaii. This gave our patient volunteers a very full skillset in non-medical compassionate caregiving to compliment the standard volunteer training they receive.
In May of 2017 I said a fond farewell to hospice and created Inspired Endings. I began facilitating end-of-life doula training programs for our community in Hawaii and on the mainland. I continue to train hospice volunteers in the doula model of care.
One of the most important lessons I’ve taken to heart from my time accompanying the dying is not so much about what to do, but more importantly about how to “be”. To put aside what I think I “know” and be grounded in a calm presence for each person’s unique journey as they labor out of this human life and back into the Great Mystery.
Bobbi has been living and loving on the Big Island since 2012 where you will find her walking amidst the raw beauty of Hawaii, swimming in the ocean blue and riding her motorcycle Kali around the glorious island she is grateful to call home.